Dating 101: What They didn’t Teach You in the Classroom; by Riana Milne
It’s amazing to me that schools never teach the importance of how to find an ideal, loving partner; or teach how to successfully have a life-time relationship. You would think in my Master’s Program in Counseling Psychology, they would have done so. It wasn’t until I took over 2.5 years of training in Coaching for Singles and Couples at RCI (Relationship Coaching Institute) and did over 1.5 years of research reading over 225 books for my own book, LOVE Beyond Your Dreams – Break Free of Toxic Relationships to Have the Love You Deserve did I get the answers I personally was looking for.
I had offered a free webinar called, “Secrets to Finding The One” – The Formula for Finding & Having the Emotionally, Evolved Relationship You Deserve. It was for those of you who keep falling in love with toxic partners who break your heart – and want to find a dedicated, emotionally healthy partner who is able and ready to commit to a relationship. If you have tried everything (Tinder, online dating, meet-up groups, the bars and clubs, or meeting through concerned family and friends) and are frustrated with the process. Or, if you’re of the age where you are ready for marriage and a family, and you’re sick of going on dead-end dates, you don’t want to waste any more time repeating what hasn’t worked. Yes, your clock is ticking; so you need to know what to do; and you can’t change what you don’t understand.
I know. I’ve lived through the pain and heartache of several toxic partners and survived to move on to find amazing Love. I understand the sense of frustration and the deep emotional longing to have true love and a relationship that lasts. Since I have done my research, I know EXACTLY what works and what doesn’t. Spiritually, I know the world is abundant, and there are plenty of great men and women who want a loving, exclusive relationships. So how do you find them? My 1-hour seminar (register at RianaMilne.com) will go into many tips and help you to start immediately to find your amazing partner, without having to lose yourself. You can finally stop feeling anxious and fearful about dating, and actually have fun – all leading to finding your fabulous soulmate.
For the purpose of this article, I want to share a few basic tips to get you started:
- Get off Tinder or any other “instant hook up” site. This is NOT dating; and it only leads to cheap sexual encounters that make you feel lousy about yourself. Online dating can be very successful, but there is an art to writing the perfect profile, choosing the best photos to post, and learning how to choose a great person to date. You are not looking for a lot of responses, only the right ones.
- Look at dating as a cool way to meet new people – that’s all. Take things light – if you look at every date as “the One” you put too much pressure on yourself and your date. It’s imperative to build up a trusting friendship before really falling in love – in the right way. The wrong way is to impulsively build a relationship because of “chemistry” which often leads to “lust blindness.” If you are looking for a lasting relationship, chemistry is not the important factor. Learn to look deeper into the soul and character of a person, and not only at their outside appearance.
- However, do dress attractively at all times, if you are looking to meet “the One.” Both men and women are still visual creatures, and a great first impression is essential. You will probably meet that person when you least expect it, so always be ready. This will lead you to feeling confident about yourself, and putting out positive energy to all those you meet. On a daily basis, share “your light” with everyone you see – that easy-going, fun-loving, kind energy that people love and are attracted to. By saying hello to everyone, everywhere, you just may meet “the One.” It worked for me! Be open to conversing with everyone who approaches to speak with you. Show interest, you just never know! If they are not “the One” they may have a friend who is perfect for you.
- Dating is a numbers game. Keep dating many suitors until you are asked to date exclusively. The gentleman should ask for this, as his “caveman brain” subconsciously feels he needs to win you from the others. Don’t call him or text early on – he must pursue you to feel the urge for something more exclusive. If you are sexual early on in meeting, the challenge for him is done, and he often looses interest. I know it sounds old fashioned, but guess what, it works. Respect yourself more and STOP giving yourself away intimately before a relationship is well established (2-3 months of regular dating) – and this goes for ALL ages.
Please join me on my free seminar on 8/11 to learn more! Just register at RianaMilne.com, or call me at (201) 281-7887. I want you to stop wasting time, money and energy with serial dating or with a toxic partner. It’s time to get your personal life to a point of amazing, while at the same time, learning the EXACT skills you need to find “the One.” It has become my purpose to help you and my clients to find the Love they Deserve!
Riana Mine, MA, is a Certified, world-wide Relationship, Love & Life Coach, published author, motivational speaker, Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Cert Addictions Professional at Therapy by the Sea; 15300 Jog Rd, Suite 109, Delray Beach. Her free App: My Relationship Coach offers more articles and her books, LIVE Beyond Your Dreams – from Fear and Doubt to Personal Power, Purpose and Success, and LOVE Beyond Your Dreams – Break Free of Toxic Relationships to Have the Love You Deserve addresses relationships with yourself and others. To learn more about Riana’s Relationship, Life or Love Coaching programs or suggest a topic, go to Riana’s website, www.RianaMilne.com or email RianaMilne@gmail.com. For information on Global Virtual Coaching: Support@LifeandLoveTrainingAcademy.com Worldwide Coaching Phone: (201) 281-7887. Delray office: (561) 701-8277; Skype Coaching and FB: coachrianamilne. #LoveCoach, #LifeCoach #RelationshipCoach #SinglesCoach #Terriana Milne