I’m Coach Riana Milne.

And I’ve been where you are.

I too have suffered with some Childhood Emotional Traumas. My mother was tough, demanding, critical, and often angry because my Dad was rarely home due to his work; which supported our family (a no-fault abandonment). This left her to raise 5 children mostly on her own.

And when I was just ten years old, and my brother and I discovered a secret footlocker in my father’s office. We thought we’d found a Treasure Chest (young children have a creative imagination!) … until we pried it open.

We discovered my father’s secret life of porn, including photos and letters from his mistress we didn’t know that he had. It ruined the Hero image I had of my Dad, yet I could not say or do anything (parent with an addiction issue and secret life).

My brother and I held that terrible secret for the next eighteen years. Although I truly loved and admired my Dad, this secret was a horrible thing for a young daughter to see – and to carry. My brother and I realized we were responsible for keeping our family together, by never revealing what we knew to anyone!

Then, as my father was dying, his mistress reappeared in our life. My brother and I knew exactly who she was to him, and THAT trauma reinforced the trauma I experienced years before (emotional abuse).

My story isn’t unique. In fact, the majority of adults experience some form of childhood trauma or an adverse childhood event. I was also horribly bullied in school for being tall and skinny (Personal Trauma), and my two brothers were my mom’s “Golden Childhren” (Sibling Trauma).

So you see, all of this combined impacted me – unconsciously – so I ended up choosing a husband by “chemistry” who was almost exactly like my father. He was handsome, charming, socially outgoing (everyone loved him!), confident and successful … and he had a secret life. His also included a porn addiction and a mistress. I ended that marriage with an annulment once his secret was discovered by his boss and he was fired from work as a school principle. 

I was in a PTSD Shock (Love Trauma) when that occured, and no therapist could help me. You see, as therapists none of our Masters-level psychology education taught us about Childhood Trauma, Unconscious Emotional Triggers, and how it impacts an adult in life, love or business!

After that, I began to research myself how to heal and to understand how the events of childhood shape our experiences as adults, especially when it comes to our intimate relationships and success in life over all. And that research led me to my understanding of how Adverse Childhood Events or Traumas re-emerge as subconscious emotional triggers throughout our lives; especially with a Partner we love.

In other words, our subconscious chooses and attracts partners for us that reinforce what we have experienced as children. This is called “chemistry”!

No wonder I ended up subconsciously choosing men who were just like my Dad! I was always able to attract men into my life, but I was subconsciously attracting the WRONG type of man. I noticed a pattern in all the men I dated: they were all handsome, charming, and fun; yet irresponsible, impulsive, lacked integrity and all had severe Childhood Trauma. They didn’t know about their Unconscious Emotional Triggers and they also didn’t do anything to fix the toxic patterns in their life once they ruined his and my life.

Even though I had a triple Master’s Degree in Clinical & Counseling Psychology, was a Licensed Alcohol & Drug Addiction Counselor and Student Assistance Counselors within schools, this topic was never discussed in any of my classes or continuing education. However, looking back over 20 years of being a therapist, I every client I worked with had past Childhood Trauma. Whether it was in the school setting as a SAC Counselor (I worked at every grade level K-College), in a Child & Adolescent ward of a Hospital, and at 2 Drug Rehab Centers (one for teens and the other with women from the prison system) – every person I had seen for therapy had Childhood Trauma. 

I started to piece all the experiece of working with trauma together, and developed the Assesment tool of the Childhood Trauma Checklist to help my Therapy clients and Coaching clients get to the root of their adult issues, which all stemmed back to some sort of unhealed, unconscious Childhood Trauma. These experiences led to behavioral patterns that was sabotaging their lives as an adult.

I discovered Ten common Adverse Childhood Events – or Traumas – that SO many people suffer from, and I made it my mission to help my clients heal their past traumas, so we can stop the painful cycle of Toxic, Codependent or Addictive love, and broken relationships.

And after doing TONS of research and studying, I also became a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional and a Certified Mindfulness Coach; so along with being a Global, Certified Life, Dating & Relationship Coach for Singles & Couples, SAC, LCADC and LMHC; I developed global Coaching programs to first heal clients from their past Childhood Trauma, then teach them what an Emotionally Healthy Relationship looks like, and how to attract one into their life.

I figured out the research-based solutions for breaking the toxic cycle of “hurtful love”, and the skills needed to create a loving relationship that was emotionally healthy, consciously evolved, supportive, and fulfilling. It is my goal to take this message to the world and help as many as I can have these wonderfuly sustaining relationships too.

I’m determined to educate those who are suffering in love and other areas of life so that they can turn their lives around to be fearless, confident, and have a positive mindset for success. And also; to learn the EXACT skills needed to attract an emotionally healthy partner into your life.

You CAN have a meaningful, loving, awesome relationship! Man or woman, straight or LGBTQ, young or old, it doesn’t matter! I am honored to Coach any adult through this journey of Personal Transformation!

The key is to decide for yourself that you are tired of experiencing the same patterns in your life that keep you stuck. 

When you do, you can commit to changing those patterns.

I suggest – you do it sooner than later – Why wait and continue to feel miserable? These skills are with your FOREVER!

It all starts with identifying and healing your Childhood Traumas so you can stop inadvertently sabotaging your love relationships, and finally experience the intimate connection you desire and deserve.