Smart Discipline Techniques for Parents – Riana Milne, LMHC, CAP, Cert Life & Relationship Coach
1) Point out positive behavior:
Praise good behavior and your child will want to continue to do it. Children, by nature, want to please their parents and teachers.
2) Present a united front:
Parents (whether married or divorced) and grandparents must discipline in the same way, and know the primary parent’s house rules where the child lives. Agree on the disciplines to be used in every household before an incident happens.
3) Follow through:
Be sure to follow through on a discipline once the rules are set – whether the child loses a privilege or expects a consequence to their actions. If you drop the consequence, your child learns that your words don’t mean much, and your child misses the opportunity to learn from his mistake.
4) Be prompt and consistent:
Act as soon as possible so your child associates the misbehavior with its consequence.
5) Take appropriate action:
Fit the consequence to the misbehavior and have your child apologize to the offended party. If you must scold your child, be brief and to the point. Children shut off listening if scolding goes on too long. If you make a mistake, apologize promptly to your child.
6) Offer choices:
Children generally respond better to being given choices than to receiving commands.
7) Listen carefully:
Children learn from watching others. If you want your child to be polite, you should be polite to your child and others.
8) Be respectful:
Show respect to your child by your words, tone of voice and body posture. Always focus on the behavior, not the child. If a child is told he is bad, he WILL be, thus fulfilling your expectations. Instead, tell him he is a good child who made a mistake he can learn to change.
9) Show you care:
Hug and kiss your child often, say, “I love you” every day, and praise them for things they do well. Children who feel loved are more willing to repeat positive behavior and quickly want to correct bad behavior. Tell a child she is great and she will believe you!
Remember, you are your child’s role model. Your child learns from YOU how to handle his anger, frustrations, and ways to show love and respect towards others. Children will carry your example forward in life – make it a great one!
If you tell your child he is bad and stupid, he will be bad and feel stupid – fulfilling your expectations. Tell him he IS smart and wonderful, and he will BE smart and wonderful!
Read more great suggestions and tips for raising healthy, successful Children and Teens in the Parenting chapter of Riana’s book, LIVE Beyond Your Dreams – from Fear & Doubt to Personal Power, Purpose & Success.
Call Coach Riana if you need help in learning and using the Positive Parenting method to raise successful, happy children and young adults.
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